October 26, 2009

Emotional Drama

This post might be offensive to some. Nevertheless, it is something that needs to be written about.

Over the past few months, I wrote about the fact that many seem to view BDSM as the answer to all their life problems. Sadly, the truth is that this is not the case. We live an alternative lifestyle. Nevertheless, it does not shield us from the basic everyday life situations that people encounter. Life is still life and fundamental coping skills need to be applied.

That being said, it seems that many who are drawn to this way of life cannot deal with situations emotionally. Their life is continual drama. We see the results in their life and wonder why can't they see their missteps. People live the way they do because of choices they made. Repeated situations are not always the fault of others.

Emotional drama is something that nobody can seriously deal with long-term. Not in a healthy manner. People who tend to reside in this mindset are apt to tear everyone around them down. This includes children, family, and a Master/Dom or slave/sub.

At some point, people need to grow up. I see so much emotional maturity with some people. This is true of both dominant and submissive types. Both have people who qualify for this title. They missed the idea that it was time to grow up emotionally. Life is not a series of crisis that one moves through. If you cannot handle your life, perhaps you need to address that.

It is sad to see someone live in a world of total delusion. There are many who cannot differentiate reality from fantasy. Well, if one is looking to BDSM to fulfill the fairy tale, I believe you are in for a letdown. Life does not operate that way. Those who succeed have the ability to emotionally cope with unenviable situations. This is true regardless of the lifestyle choice one lives by.

Life does not have to be filled with drama. This is a choice a person makes. Some will make like they are powerless over the circumstances in his or her life. The truth is that we often make choices which put ourselves in the path of negative consequences. Accept it and move on.

If you find that your life is filled with drama, maybe you should look at the way you approach things. Perhaps it is time to release some attachment to something or someone. Some people will suck all the life out of you if allowed. This is something that you should take extreme care to avoid.

I found that dealing with emotionally challenged people is next to impossible. These people need to learn to take some responsibility for their actions. Until that point is achieved, there is little that can be done for them. Submitting to a person of this nature means that you will end up carrying the relationship (in addition to probably being physically abused since that is how many deal with emotional immaturity). Or, if you are the dominant type, trying to continually appease someone of this makeup will consume all your time and energy. In the end, neither situation will be very fulfilling.

Growth is an important aspect of life. If one is unwilling to undergo the changes necessary to accomplish this end, he or she will be a burden on others.

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