October 15, 2009

Pain as Pleasure

There are many who are lovers pain. We see these types throughout the lifestyle. While not the most common, they are a fair percentage of the submissive types that we encounter. However, there are times when pain is a good thing and times they are not. I hope to clarify this a little bit here.

"Pain sluts" love physical pain. They are the ones who thoroughly enjoy the beatings they are given. For this reason, physical punishment is not really an effective approach with these individuals. In essence, they love the physical sensation they receive from a Dom/Master. Many will enter a state called "subspace" which takes the feelings to another level.

Nevertheless, there is a time when a sub/slave should not receive physical pain. It is at these times when pain is desired for an escape. To give in to that temptation will cause her to endure more suffering in the long run.

There are times in life when we have to deal with things emotionally. Each of us has situations which create emotional pain. This is a natural part of the growth process and everyone gets to participate. When we are confronted with these times, we can opt to face the pain or run from it. Those who face it mature, those who run dwindle towards nothingness.

A "pain slut" will often ask for a beating when she is hurting emotionally. This is called transference. She wants to transfer the present pain she is feeling (emotional) to something that is more acceptable to her (physical). This is a type of pain that she can handle.

The problem with this idea is that we all need to deal with things. That is part of life. Yet, the desire to "run" is great. Therefore, those who fail to confront the present issues end up lacking the resources to deal with things in the future. It is no different than an alcoholic hiding in the bottom of a bottle. He or she never learns to deal with things.

Therefore, be sure to monitor the emotional state of one before engaging in physical beatings. Even though she enjoys it, she might not be able to handle it at that moment.

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dark snow on October 16, 2009 at 12:38 AM said...

great advice n info!!

Gattino on October 16, 2009 at 3:45 AM said...

Very true - it has taken Master a long time to get me to understand that hurting on the inside does not mean i need to hurt on the outside, pain is pleasurable for me and should not be used to mask what i am feeling when things seems to crash down on me.

A good Master knows that by paddling a slave when she is in turmoil can lead to disasterous results as she can and often does go further than is safe for her as she tries to run from things and avoid the hurting emotionally
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