We live in an era where equality is something that is promoted as the ideal. Everywhere you turn, especially on the mass media, we hear of people promoting this idea. For example, turn on the television and you hear the President talk about people "paying their fair share". What the hell does that mean? In essence, he is saying that some were able to have more, so more should be shared to balance things out. Those with more ought to have less while those with less ought to have more.
At the same time, we are in now 50 years into the equal rights movements. "Equal pay for equal work" is the mantra. Gender differences are overlooked with some feeling equally capable of being able to do the job regardless of physical or mental differences. Again, we see laws written with the intention of "evening the playing field" in an effort to promote this idea of equality. Please bear in mind, this is extremely important to the social structure of our cultures.
However, is it effective? If we research the most equitable idea ever invented in terms of a political/economic system, we need to look no further than communism. Here was a system that was developed with the sole intention of establishing equality among everyone. While that sounds grand in theory, how did it work in reality. Looking at countries that have this system around the world, we see that equality is not achieved. Instead, we notice that a certain few end up with all the wealth, power, and control while the others are left with little. Now some might want to dispute this and this is not meant to spur a political debate. The bottom line is equality across the board is not achieved.
My conclusion is that equality is a myth.
We all live according to the laws of nature. This is an inescapable truth of our reality. I could care less what your philosophical or religious beliefs are, whether you call it universe or god, we all know there is something that guides everything that is happening. The Earth rotates around the sun as it has done for millions (if not billions) of years. Nothing we do alters that reality. Seasons come and they go. Night turns into day and vice versa. Mankind, for all its intelligence, has nothing to do with this reality.
One of the greatest insights one can achieve is to understand what laws that nature lives by. Again, whether you come from the perspective of science or religion, it is often mandating the same thing. That being the case, I understand that the grandest law of nature also provides the largest change in any one individual's life. And if you can understand this law while applying it in all your do, grow will occur instantly.
The most important thing to know about nature is this:
Nature operates according to survival of the fittest.
Notice what is written there. The basic law of life is survival of the fittest. It is ironic that we do not see equality in that sentence anywhere. Nature is an unfair environment. The law of the jungle prevails and it is a mistake to believe that we, as members of the Animal Kingdom, are exempt from this practice. Yes advanced intelligence and compassion are part of our makeup yet this does not dispel this basic essence of our reality.
Through this understanding, it is easy to see how equality is unnatural. Nature does not operate on the premise of fairness or equal power. Is it fair that the lame deer is the one who gets caught and eaten by the predators? Why is the lion the King of the Jungle? Simply because on the hierarchy, he is a badass to the nth degree. Notice how in the wild the best hunters are the ones who eat while those who lag behind starve to death. The fittest survive while others die.
BDSM Is Natural
How does any of this apply to BDSM? The idea of structuring one's life based upon power exchange is in keeping with nature. Those who believe that their is equality in relationships i.e. marriage, are sadly mistaken. In every relationship, even if it is not consciously designed, there is power exchange. One person, whether it is through personality, fear, or societal conditioning, will have less while another had more. Sure this can be a sliding scale with the power moving back and forth. But over time, you will find that one tends to have the power most of the time.
People who enter the BDSM world do so after uncovering things about themselves. The basic foundation is the determination that one is either submissive or dominant. Please take note that the word I used is "uncovering". This is vastly different than if I said the person "decided". One does not decide to be dominant or submissive. Instead, it is something that is resident within oneself, placed there by nature, that one uncovers. It is from this discovery that one is able to move forward within this way of life.
The fundamental tenet of BDSM is an inequitable distribution of power. People involved in BDSM relationships consciously decide to structure their lives based upon the natural qualities within each person. These traits form the basis for a structure where one has total power while the other does not. The pretense of equality is smashed immediately. It is not a myth that we choose to engage in. On the contrary, we are following the law of nature which, at its core, is inequality.
It is for this reason that I feel BDSM is the most natural way to structure one's life. The tenets we live by are in complete accordance with nature. We are not following the beliefs that society established which only led to unhappiness and a lack of fulfillment. Societal norms are discarded knowing the lack the results they promise. We effortlessly get into the flow of life while embarking upon our roles that are easily established based upon our inherent qualities granted to us by nature. Confusion is eliminated when one simply looks within. At times, it is as simple as breathing. While society changes with each new political theory or economic system, the true essence of mankind (and womankind) does not. In reality, even though it did not go by this name, BDSM was around since the dawn of man. The myth of equality is a recent development in man's history. Survival of the fittest was around since the beginning.
Consider this the next time you find that you feel "different" because of your BDSM desires.
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