August 30, 2009

Stop Living By Their Rules


BDSM is all about freedom. This might seem strange when you consider this is a lifestyle that includes bondage as one of the main foundations. Nevertheless, those who have enough courage to choose this way of life know the freedom that goes along with living true to one's core.

Yesterday, I had an experience which altered my outlook slightly. While not going into too many details, let's just say there was an incident that could have seriously injured me permanently. After pondering this for a while, I realized how fragile life really is. What is present today can evaporate instantly. Life has a way of changing rapidly.

Society has a way of creating rules for us. They teach us what is appropriate and what is not. People who do not conform are called a variety of derogatory names. This is how it conditions us to behave in certain ways. Peep pressure and the idea of not fitting in can create havoc within those who are insecure. Most will blindly follow rather than risk being outcast.

The sad thing is that few of us can happily live in the box that society creates for us. We are all individuals with inner callings that must be followed. To deny these motives puts us in a state if unhappiness. That is why so many feel their life is empty. On the surface all seems alright yet there is that inner itch needing to be scratched.

It is time to stop living by their rules. If you are one who is looking at any aspect of the BDSM lifestyle, then the odds are that you are unhappy with what the traditional mode of relationships offers. Simply, you want something different. Most of us experienced the same thing.

The first step to entry into this way of life is the mental commitment to be true to what is calling you. If there is something that you are attracted to, then resolve to make that a reality in your life. Today is the day to stop living by their rules. BDSM offers the opportunity to fulfill whatever desires reside within you. Accepting this is a part of the life that you want to create for yourself is the beginnings of your new path.

Society is against what we do. They believe in equality in relationships. The vanilla world likes to keep things on a level basis. BDSM is about power and control. The exchange of power is central in all we do. We are ones who feel that some are designed to dominate while others are structured for submission. One is not better than the other: both are necessary to complete the submission act.

Many will ponder entry by doing "research". It is good to be cautious especially when it comes to choosing another to get involved with. However, the act of committing yourself mentally can be done in short time. Again, if there is something you like, resolve to make that a part of your life. All actions begin in the head. Changing your life is a mental exercise first.

The control that society holds over us is powerful. The conditioning we all experience alters our behavior without our knowledge. Breaking free of this psychological control is a long and difficult process. Years of conditioning cannot be undone in a few days. However, deciding to move in a certain direction helps to facilitate the process of breaking free. Once you have decided this is what you want, you are then able to wrestle with the inner conflict that naturally will result.

Stop living by society's rules. Start to forge your own life by resolving to make decisions for yourself. Nobody is responsible for the way you live other than yourself. It is the only path that I know which results in freedom.

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1 comments:

BlueEyes69 on August 31, 2009 at 7:39 AM said...

Here, here!!! Stop living by others' rules!

Thank you, Sir. I've been called many, many names for living my life the way I want to live it -- open and fun. To heck with what others say.

This speaks volumes to the truth!

XOXOXOX

 

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