August 12, 2009

Courageous Way Of Life

Choosing to live the BDSM life is something that takes courage. We are involved in what many deem an "alternative lifestyle". Selecting to live this way opens one to the ridicule and degradation of family/friends. To stand up to this pressure often requires courage. Without it, many are tempted to return what is considered "normal".

There is another aspect that few consider. This way of life goes contrary to what we are conditioned by society. Therefore, many of our own internal beliefs stand in our way of committing to this entirely. I personally felt this internal strife. It is something that can take some time to resolve.

For those who never engaged in the internal self study required to truly decide on this way of life, it can be a task that is daunting. Only the courageous truly look within for their answers. It is far easier to go through life looking at everyone else. The most popular pastime these days is blame. We blame others for all our ills. This is not how we learn to grow.

BDSM is a way of life. It is something that we consciously chose to live in. There was and still is pressure from many external forces to abandon what we do. Many will tell us they only want our happiness only to chastise us when we find it. The truth is that people only want what fits their definition of happiness. Straying outside those bounds causes them to attack.

One must be prepared to face the challenges. There is a lot more than just opting to get involved in BDSM and selecting someone who fits what you are looking for. You need to consider all the ramifications of your decision. How will your children be affected? Is there an ex who can use society's lack of understanding against you? These are all questions that should be considered before moving forward. Arriving at these answers at a later time will only cause conflict.

Alternative lifestyles can be wonderful if they are the right fit. However, never think for a moment that things suddenly will get easier because you elect this route. The truth is that often your path just got a lot harder.

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