June 9, 2009

A Different Perspective

The other day I wrote a post, How Committed Are You. It talked about the importance of being willing to accept all the repercussions that one might get from family and friends. Sadly, they often do not understand the choices we make. They tell us they want what is best for us yet typically only when it is in agreement with their view of life. This creates a conflict while instilling fear through their ignorance.

Here is an email I got from a slave who experienced some of what I mentioned. Please read her words and digest the emotions that she feels.

Having read your post, I felt that I had to write and tell you about my experiences with regard to what you have said.

I lived, or rather existed in a life that was empty, I knew what I was but circumstances and life events had meant that I had to go about my life and be unfulfilled. I got talking to a Master on the internet, what he was telling me and showing me made me realise that I deserved more than I was getting, I deserved t be happy and start living again.

The cost of that happiness has come with a price though, I have been disowned by my family and friends as they really cannot understand that this is something I have to do for me, and especially as I am submissive and living with my Master. They seem to think I am abandoning them to be with another man, this is far from the truth, if I could I would have the best of both worlds, my Master and my family but that is not to be and so I had to make a choice and that was one of the hardest things I have ever done.

The worst thing for me and for my Master is the feelings that I have to cope with, the questioning of myself and whether I am being selfish in wanting to live and be happy. But at the end of the day I know that I am where I need to be and with who I need to be with. Hopefully my family will one day forgive me and know that I will never stop loving them and I hope that they will always know that I am here for them if they need me.

When faced with a choice like this, a life changing decision, there really is no easy way, all I can say is you need a strong Master to support you and a lot of courage to follow it through. Sometimes it seems so easy to say something, but at the same time it takes faith, trust and courage to follow your heart and dreams, and ride out the storms that will follow. You need the belief that one day your family will come to understand why you made the choices you made and they accept them and you once more. If they don’t then you need to learn to accept that as well, after all you only have one life and there is a big difference between existence and living.

There is a big difference between the romantic fantasy people carry and the painful reality. Our choices have consequences. It is important to understand this before getting into a situation that is irreversible.

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