Safety In BDSM

I knew a girl, who's eyes shown brightly.


Submissive in nature, liked to play nightly,


flames came from her hair, fire from her eyes.


wanting all ways to go that extra mile.


The Dom she found sent a shiver to her soul, his touch


ignited within her, ignited the coals.


Her heat warmed her body, willing to give her all


for she became his that cold sunday morn.


They played hard those days, he had brought a friend,


Her mind went to a place that she wanted not to end.


battered and bruised she was left on the bed,


confusion and turmoil cascaded through her head,


left in her peak, crying out loud, her soul could not
fathom,


to fend for herself the guilt filled her heart,


she had done something wrong, though her all she gave.


She died that day at the end of a cord,


her purpose she had failed, she could no longer live anymore.


A soft word, cool drink, to be held and caressed,


To be told well done, well done little one,


three simple words, a little time spent, in her heart


she would of known her existence well spent.


Her name was Cloe, 21/1/1980-26/10/2007......She fell into the hands of
an untrained Dom. The word aftercare meant nothing to him. The note she
left told of her disgust and pain within for she thought that she had
failed to please.


Indo

This is a post that floated around the Internet. I cannot verify the validity of it or not in terms of whether this actually occurred. However, it does point to the fact of how important safety is in the BDSM community. Many seem to overlook this simple fact when they approach their scenes. This story emphasizes how tragedy can be the result when proper precautions are not undertaken.

Inexperience is not a valid reason for not knowing. It is the responsibility for anyone in a dominant role to educate him or herself about this way of life. This is where the online pretenders can cause great havoc. They believe that reading a few posts and parroting that will make them an expert. Sadly, the leap from online to real time is huge. People do not understand how little online has to do with reality. Those who make the transition without knowledge are dangerous. Too often we see the results mentioned above.

If you are dealing with someone who you are unsure of, thoroughly question him or her to the experience he or she has. This is your life so you have a right to know. And, do not fall for the line "I am a Master so you have no right to ask that". Horsecrap. You have every right to know who you are dealing with. If that person will not reveal it, move on.

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