In Touch With Our True Selves

Get in tough with your true self: this is the highest order I believe all of us have. It is sad to see the masses walking through life following the edicts presented to them by someone else. They are misled into thinking that the path they are on is the one to happiness. Certainly, for some it is. However, there are many out there who are simply miserable. You can see it in their eyes.

BDSM is an opportunity for people to shed the shackles that society implements while enjoying the freedom that comes with making a real life decision. That being said, BDSM is not something where "one size fits all". There are many different facets which can fulfill equally. The only challenge is to determine where you fit on the spectrum.

This is where some introspective enters the picture. It is vital that one take the necessary time to determine exactly what he or she likes. This is true whether one is presently involved with someone else or single. At the end of the day, we all are responsible for the situations we are in. The requires a bit of maturity but is worth the effort.

Deciding whether you are submissive or not (or dominant) is only the first part of the process. How extreme are you in this area? Are you one where it is cut and dry with regards to being completely submissive or dominant? Or do you have a bit of each in you? Perhaps you are more of a switch as opposed to a sub/slave? Whatever the inner desires and feelings that you have, they need to be acknowledged. Failing to do so could lead to much unhappiness and sorrow.

It is possible to feel out of place in the BDSM world. Many enter believing that simply reading a few articles prepares him or her for the different facets of this way of life. This is not the case. Even after one decides to enter into this particular lifestyle, there still remains a great deal of soul searching to determine exactly where he or she fits. Sadly, most skip this crucial step.

There is a lot of trial and error involved in a successful BDSM lifestyle. Some can grow into certain ideas and overcome obstacles that exist in the mind. Other times there are true limits which cannot be overcome. Regardless of the path, it is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to do things; one way of living is not better than another. The only criteria is does it work for the individual(s) involved?

Happiness is what we all seek. It is up to you to decide which aspects of the lifestyle work for you.

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