The "kinkiness" of the BDSM lifestyle is one of the things that appeals most to me. I love the versatility that this way of life offers. There are so many that I encounter who's sex lives are boring. For whatever reason, they will not stray from what they know.
To me, sex is suppose to be fun and exciting. The experimental aspect of it is one of the factors which make it so. I love to try new things. At the same time, I really enjoy helping others discover what BDSM can offer them. There are so many different facets which will liven up anyone's sex life.
So, where do you begin? I would say that learning a bit about the different areas is a good starting point. Look back over your fantasies to see what it is that you like. What have you always wanted to try? Perhaps you like the idea of being tied up. Or, maybe a good spanking is to your liking? Does the idea of domination or submission appeal to you? Where can you see "puppy" play fitting into your sex life? These are some of the things that will enhance what you enjoy with your partner.
Do not feel the need to go to the extreme end of the lifestyle immediately. Many feel that they need to be "leather" within a week of being introduced to this way of life. Nothing could be further from the truth. BDSM offers the opportunity for anyone to create a life that is appropriate for him or her. What others do is irrelevant. The important factor is what you enjoy and the level that you feel comfortable with.
Begin by experimenting with different things. Go online and read about different factors of the BDSM way of life. Start by implementing what interests you. Of course, communicate all your desires to your partner. Communication is one of the most critical components when trying new things. Make sure that both of you are on the same page. Safety is always at the top of our list. And most of all, have fun.
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