A Little Kink Is Good

BDSM is not all about sex. My regular followers know how I allude to the many different levels which are involved in this lifestyle. For many, this is simply a way to spice up their sex lives; while others opt to make a lifestyle transformation from the mundane to the exciting.

As I usually write, it is important to remember that life goes on. Just because you enter into the BDSM way of life, that does not mean that you are exempt from any of the other experiences life has to offer. We work, raise children, volunteer, and pay the bills like everyone else. In short, we are everyday people.

However, there is no reason why anyone cannot add a little 'kink' into their lives. Sex was created to be enjoyed. Like a shoe, there is not a 'one size fits all' approach. Some desire more than just the missionary position every other Thursday night. BDSM is a wonderful way to add the spice that left the bedroom.

Bondage, paddles, and candles are all techniques which can stimulate any sexual encounter. At the core of BDSM is the exchange of power. Even if you are not sure whether you are dominant or submissive, this is something that you can experiment with your partner. For many, taking turns is an erotic way to seek fulfillment when looking for a sexual uplift.

Those who are serious about the BDSM lifestyle understand that it is not all about sex. Nevertheless, many who just want to 'take a look' will find extreme pleasure in concentrating on the sexual aspect of the lifestyle. It is the simplest way to get involved in BDSM.

In my book Erotic Humiliation, I wrote about how easy it is to get started on this way of life. One of the most basic methods is the decide to 'humiliate' the one who is submissive. This can be done either verbally or physically (or both). Erotic humiliation is a turn on since it increases the division of power. When this technique is applied, the relationship quickly moves from an even level to more one-sided. I found this strokes both the Dom and the sub.

BDSM is fun. Try it out in your relationship. There is no need to run out and spend a lot of money on accessories you do not know how to use. Look around the house for items which will be useful in dealing with your sub. One of my favorite is the everyday kitchen spatula. This serves as a wonderful way to paddle one's butt for pleasure.

Add a little kink to your life. We all have mundane tasks that we need to perform. Consider BDSM as a way to take certain aspects of your life to a different level. I am confident you will be happy with the results.


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