BDSM Is Alternative

BDSM is something that is not readily accepted by mainstream society. We, especially in the West, are still highly uptight when it comes to sex. This leads to many pushing their sexual beliefs/actions out of the sight of others. Inevitably, this creates a disconnect among people resulting in many feeling they are different from everyone else.

My belief is that the majority of people practice some form of BDSM in their sexual activities. Of course, this is not something that is commonly mentioned. In fact, those who choose to live this lifestyle actively are cast in a different light. A term such as pervert is often applied.

The fact that BDSM is not readily accepted with the common culture makes it an alternative lifestyle. This become more apparent the further deeper one goes into it. For example, the number of people who participate in M/s are minimal compared to the general population. Mention to the average person that you are in one of these relationships and they will be ready to call the cops. Acceptance is not something that is commonly practiced in this situation.

I always suggest that new people refrain from 'exposing' their choices when first entering into this way of life. The truth is that few will actually encourage your decision. Most, if not all, will try to talk you out of it. They will use the 'be reasonable' argument. Of course, they are only concerned about your happiness (another argument they make).

The bottom line is there is risk with choosing to live this way. The lack of understanding which still exists causes pain for many. Families can be split if the truth emerges. That is why I try to keep aspects of my personal life private within the family unit. Their lack of understanding and judgments will not serve to better our relationship. Like the old saying 'some things are better off left unsaid'.

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