Erotic humiliation is a technique that can really enhance one's sexual experience. The value of this concept it that it is flexible enough to be taken to any degree. It is limited only by the relationship enjoyed by Dom and sub.
Many find it difficult to start putting this idea into practice. In my book, Erotic Humiliation, I mentioned the different types of humiliation that exist. Basically, the simplest are physical and verbal humiliation. A Dom can select ways to degrade his sub by having her perform certain acts or by referring to her in different ways. Done properly, this will enhance the experience for both.
Probably the simplest way to implement this technique is during sex. Verbally humiliating a sub during sex increases the feelings within each person. For whatever reason, society teaches us that much of our esteem is tied to our sexual abilities. Therefore, degrading one about his/her sexual abilities strikes at a level imposed by societal conditioning.
In my book, I mentioned how it is crucial that one is dealing with a sub who is psychologically able to handle the humiliation. The idea is to enhance the experience for both people. BDSM is not about abusing another for personal gain. There are many who suffered abuse as children who never fully recovered from that experience. We need to be mindful of the state of those people before doing something that could cause permanent damage.
Getting back to the sex, we will want to verbally degrade the sub. This starts with selecting a particular body part which is deemed "less than worthy". For a male sub, this is the dick. Telling him how small or inadequate he is strikes at the foundation of a man's worth. At the same time, most women are sensitive to the smell of their pussies or the size of their tits or ass. Mentioning how awful these things are will put her in a position of being humiliated.
Also, there are societal terms such as whore and slut which can be used to liven up your games. Many are taught these are "bad" things to be. Again, cultures have a way of instilling this belief upon people. Calling one these things will using her is a good way to humiliate.
This concept can be expanded outside the bedroom. Once the scene is done, you can implement this in other areas of your relationship. Perhaps, if you have other friends in the lifestyle, degrading him or her in front of them will be effective. I prefer to let everyone at my parties know what a slut I own. In the next section I will write about physical humiliation involving others. However, even limited to verbal will make get her submissive side hopping.
Try this technique the next time you are having sex with your sub. I will bet that you both will enjoy it tremendously.
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