A deeper level of BDSM

Many carry an image of BDSM that leads them to believe it is all about whips and spankings. The portrayal of this lifestyle online concentrates on just a small portion of the lifestyle. For those who live this way of life daily, there is so much more than just a scene. Thus, the rewards are far greater than just sexual.

Today, I would like to focus upon the spiritual aspect of BDSM. This might seem contrary at first glance. However, anyone who has come across someone new will know the truth. New people, when first joining this way of life, often get in touch with something very deep within them. It is like they access the 'inner core' of their being. I feel this is a form of a spiritual experience.

To be fair, I will tell you I am not going to go all "woo woo" on you. This is not an esoteric blog focusing on spiritual disciplines. Nevertheless, studies show that in the United States over 90% of the people believe in God. Worldwide, billions of people have different particular faiths they practice. Regardless of the belief, BDSM helps us get into that flow.

Paul Lowe, the self help teacher, talks about how 'most of our neuroses are tied to our sexuality'. The majority of the population is hung up about their own sexuality. It is no wonder they look at those of us in BDSM with distain. They have bought into the sexual ideals that others chose for them.

Lowe goes on to explain that 'once we are totally comfortable with our sexuality, that is when our neuroses disappear and we start connecting properly with our spiritual flow'. I know this sounds a bit hocky until you sit and ponder it a while. Many people who find this lifestyle often get the feeling 'of being home'. It is something they searched for over the years. It is only after discovering this way of life that their life seemed contented.

I believe this is where people are getting in touch with that 'thing that is bigger than them'. We are all created from something. The allure of BDSM is the freeing of ourselves from socially defined norms. This is not done in a rebellious manner. Rather, it is an individual finding what works for them. Being true to oneself is the hardest thing to do with all the influences that exist in the world.

Those who connect with the BDSM way of life have found a spiritual connection. Obviously this can occur on many different levels. The point I am making is that there is so much deeper than just whips and cuffs. Those taking the time can realize a much bigger purpose to their sexual/relationship choices. BDSM is all of that.


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