April 8, 2009

3 Reason To Get Into BDSM


Most people get into BDSM as a way to enhance their traditional relationship. Often, they are looking for ways to "spice" things up within a marriage (or some other arrangement). A few use it as an alternative to the traditional mode of relationships. Whatever the motivation, there are three main benefits for involving yourself in BDSM.

1. Entertain your dominant/submissive side.

Most people have a particular style which is natural to them. There are some who get sexually aroused at the idea of being tied up. Others experience the same sensation when pondering being the one who is doing the tying. Within each of us, there is a overriding trait (either dominant or submissive) which we are seeking to fulfill.

BDSM allows us to entertain this side of ourselves. Many of us find ourselves in professions where we need to be a certain way. Yet, oftentimes, this is something which goes against our basic makeup. I have met more than one high-powered attorney who was completely submissive. Also, the traditional relationship usually has an equal breakdown of power relying more on negotiation as opposed to domination or submission.

2. It is a terrific way to enhance your sex life.

The drawback to most long-term relationships is that the sex tends to suffer over time. Over the years, people tend to do all that they can reasonably think of. However, getting involved in BDSM opens up a whole new world of sexual fantasy to be explored. The possibilities become almost endless when one starts researching all that is available.

A wonderful aspect of this is that it is simple to get started. Many seem to want to complicate the process. Instead of shopping at the local sex shop (where prices are incredibly high), travel to your local hardware store. You will be amazed what you can do with some rope, wood, and rubber hoses. People with active imaginations can get really creative with what they devise.

3. You will meet some of the most wonderful people.

Whether it is online in a chatroom/forum or in your local community, there are some wonderful people involved in this lifestyle. People come from every walk of life. The majority of people I have met are simply interested in having a good time. Since this tends to be off the "mainstream" path, most individuals seem to be less judging than the average person. Enjoying ourselves while being considerate of others is of utmost importance.

These are some of the main reasons why many people get involved with BDSM. It is a lifestyle which allows for a lot of variety. Some elect to restrict it to their sex lives while others make it the primary foundation. Regardless of what you prefer, BDSM offers something for everyone.

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2 comments:

Binder said...

I agree!, especially with number 1. i find general life easier being more passive, so acting a dominant during sex is most satisfying.

Very good article
Thanks

Alujna on May 13, 2010 at 12:29 PM said...

i especially agree with the 3rd reason. people in the lifestyle are definetely less judging or critical about yours, that is not to say they expect less , simply that they understand you better.

 

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