August 7, 2008

The Reality Of Real Time

Many come into this lifestyle by getting involved with someone online. The Internet has allowed for communication and interaction with others worldwide. A drawback to this wide communication network is that we have lost a lot of the one-on-one interaction. This is seen in the BDSM arena where people have “online relationships” which they mistake for being the real thing.

Let us start by saying that an online BDSM relationship is not the same as a “real/time” relationship. They are two completely different worlds. Too many mistakenly believe that the later will be the same as the online was. Sadly, this is not the truth. Online tends to glamorize the relationships. It is when one makes the switch to real/time that reality hits her squarely in the face. In this instance, she often wonders what happened to the wonderful relationship that she had.

Often a sub/slave is asked to do things when online which are a test to see her level of commitment. Of course, without being there, a Dom/Master has no way of knowing if the task was accomplsihed (in many instances). It is left to the word of the sub/slave. Many times she will agree to something knowing that she is not going to do it. When living online, she can get away with this.

The same cannot be said for reality. When she is with her Dom/Master, he will know if something is not complete. In these instances, He probably will opt for some form of punishment. Again, online punishments are a lot different then real world. Some of the actions which might result:

-she might be told to hold off pissing for a few hours (one of my personal favorites)

-she might have to sleep on the floor for a certain length of time.

-her meals may be served in a dog dish

-her residence may be a cage for a day or so

-she may find that orgasms are prohibited for a few weeks (or longer)

-or she could find that she is ignored for a long period of time while her Dom/Master lavishes attention on another.

These are just a few of the options that One might choose. The point is that real/time is vastly different than online. For many online, it really is a fantasy game to them. They are not serious about the lifestyle. I believe this is why they resist when it comes time to transition to the real world. Their intention was simply to play for a while. The dedication that is necessary to be successful in a real relationship is too much for many to handle. Yet they often believe what they are engaging in is real. Sadly for those who are in this situation, it is not.



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