November 18, 2008

The Ups and Downs of BDSM


Many seem to think that entering the BDSM world will solve all of one's problems. It will not. The biggest thing to remember about a BDSM relationship (whether it be D/s or M/s) is that it is still a relationship. Even within the alternative lifestyle, there are life issues to deal with. We are not exempt from all the circumstances that others go through.

Relationships, by their very nature, contains ups and downs. There are times when two people get along fabulously while others, not so well. As I wrote numerous times, the only real difference between BDSM and traditional relationships is the power structure. Aside from that, they mimic each other to a great extent.

So, what are the important components? You can already guess the answer to that one. The same qualities which make a vanilla relationship succeed also helps those in BDSM prevail. We can look to the attributes of trust, responsibility, contribution, and compatibility. These are all things that make interactions with others successful.

There will be difficult times in any relationship. What gets a couple through them is the trust that they have for each other. "Anything worth having is worth fighting for". We see this clearly in relationships. When two people are committed to making things work, they can overcome astounding obstacles.

Consider this the next time things get a little bumpy in your relationship.

1 comments:

kitten on November 19, 2008 at 2:53 AM said...

All to often people, especially subs and slaves think this life is all they need to make their lives better, it is not,life happens and as with all things in life, sometimes outside interferance can destroy things unless you have the foundations in place, Trust is essential as is commitment and belief,
Do not look at this as the answer to all your problems, look at it as the beginning of a wonderful life, but the main thing is, its life with all that it entails

 

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