May 26, 2014

Acting Like Everyone Owes You Something

This post is for those people who identify themselves as dominant in nature.

Over the years, I had countless conversations with subs/slaves about the behavior of the so called dominants online.  Quite frankly, it is baffling to say the least.  I understand that the anonymity of the Internet gives people a bigger set of balls then they would have in real life but this gets excessive.  So, I thought I would put together a post that helps to clarify things.

To start, for all you dominants out there, nobody owes you crap.  You are not owed respect.  Nobody needs to call you Sir, Master, or Lord.  Just because you are dominant, self titled at that, that means absolutely nothing.  This identification does not give you the right to act like a total asshole and say whatever you want.  Thinking that you are something simply because you put one of the aforementioned words before your name does not amount to much.  In fact, your behaviors are actually showing everyone how small you truly are.

One thing that everyone needs to keep in mind is that subs/slaves are people. Do you understand what I am saying?  Simply because an individual identifies herself as a submissive type, that doesn't mean she is less than you.  Submission is the opposite side of the domination coin, that is all.  One is not better or worse than the other.  In fact, it takes each to complete the other.  If you have difficulty understanding this, try to dominant without anyone submitting.  You will find it rather difficult.

Since submissive personalities are people, it is best to approach them with the common courtesy bestowed upon all individuals.  When interacting with someone for the first time in real life, do you walk up and call her cunt, whore, slut, or pig?  If you do, I imagine your social skills require some work.  However, if you are like most people and do not do this, what makes you think it is appropriate online?  Consider that for a few minutes.  What applies in person also applies online.

I know what some of you are thinking.  There are many subs who like to be interacted with and degraded.  That is true.  However, as with all things in BDSM, that requires consent.  So even though a sub wants to be talked down to, that does not mean she wants to be interacted in that way by you.  This is especially true in the first email or interaction.  You have to be given the right to interact with her in such a manner.  Before that occurs, she deserves to be treated like everyone else.

So, in closing, stop acting like the world's biggest ass.  You are not big and bad simply because you call yourself a dominant.  As mentioned, it is my guess the more you do this, the less the submissive types think of you.  Certainly, I feel you are proving yourself to be rather small.  Are you trying to compensate for having a less than average penis?  Is that why you insist on behaving in this way?  Stop feeling as if people owe you anything.  Until proven otherwise, you are just some clown online who set up a profile.  Hence, you showed that you have basic computer skills, that is all.  Other than that, there is nothing about you that shows you are dominant.  Start acting like someone who has a clue what this is all about and perhaps you will get a bit further.


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slave destiny on May 26, 2014 at 5:15 AM said...

*smiles and simply says...*

Thank You !!!

Anonymous said...

I feel sorry for you

subbiedreams on June 7, 2014 at 8:33 AM said...

Thank goodness a real man stepped up and spoke on behalf of us subs/slaves. Thank you! Kisses!

Anonymous said...

I have a problem and I wonder if you can give me some insight.

I met a guy on an online dating site. Since the first time we talk, he emphasize his willingness to be a woman's slave. I told him that I'm not the one he's looking for, so we remain friends.

Few weeks ago we finally planned to meet and do some vacation together (he pays everything), then our communication got more intense. He subtly, but consistently, tries to convince me that I'm actually a Dom and he is willing to be my slave. He also told me that he will do anything to serve me, and that his sole purpose is to make me happy. He even called me his 'Queen'.

What I notice is that he always tries to find every opportunity to direct me into thinking that I'm a Dom, and what I need is a man slave like him. I began to feel that he is trying to instill his fantasy (of being enslaved by a dominatrix) on me.

Two nights ago he was crying on chat. He said that he really really want to be my slave and that he is willing to do anything he can to satisfy me. I find this behavior a bit odd, because basically his idealism of his own slavery is against my own principle of equal relationship (he think slave is less than the master). But something inside me tells me that he is actually is breaking down right now and in desperate need for a helping hand, I feel a deep sympathy and an urge to help him.

What is your take on this? Do you think I should try to help him out, or just simply runaway from this guy? I'm confused and don't know what to do or who to talk to about this matter, while our meeting day is getting closer.


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