Acting Like Everyone Owes You Something

This post is for those people who identify themselves as dominant in nature.

Over the years, I had countless conversations with subs/slaves about the behavior of the so called dominants online.  Quite frankly, it is baffling to say the least.  I understand that the anonymity of the Internet gives people a bigger set of balls then they would have in real life but this gets excessive.  So, I thought I would put together a post that helps to clarify things.

To start, for all you dominants out there, nobody owes you crap.  You are not owed respect.  Nobody needs to call you Sir, Master, or Lord.  Just because you are dominant, self titled at that, that means absolutely nothing.  This identification does not give you the right to act like a total asshole and say whatever you want.  Thinking that you are something simply because you put one of the aforementioned words before your name does not amount to much.  In fact, your behaviors are actually showing everyone how small you truly are.

One thing that everyone needs to keep in mind is that subs/slaves are people. Do you understand what I am saying?  Simply because an individual identifies herself as a submissive type, that doesn't mean she is less than you.  Submission is the opposite side of the domination coin, that is all.  One is not better or worse than the other.  In fact, it takes each to complete the other.  If you have difficulty understanding this, try to dominant without anyone submitting.  You will find it rather difficult.

Since submissive personalities are people, it is best to approach them with the common courtesy bestowed upon all individuals.  When interacting with someone for the first time in real life, do you walk up and call her cunt, whore, slut, or pig?  If you do, I imagine your social skills require some work.  However, if you are like most people and do not do this, what makes you think it is appropriate online?  Consider that for a few minutes.  What applies in person also applies online.

I know what some of you are thinking.  There are many subs who like to be interacted with and degraded.  That is true.  However, as with all things in BDSM, that requires consent.  So even though a sub wants to be talked down to, that does not mean she wants to be interacted in that way by you.  This is especially true in the first email or interaction.  You have to be given the right to interact with her in such a manner.  Before that occurs, she deserves to be treated like everyone else.

So, in closing, stop acting like the world's biggest ass.  You are not big and bad simply because you call yourself a dominant.  As mentioned, it is my guess the more you do this, the less the submissive types think of you.  Certainly, I feel you are proving yourself to be rather small.  Are you trying to compensate for having a less than average penis?  Is that why you insist on behaving in this way?  Stop feeling as if people owe you anything.  Until proven otherwise, you are just some clown online who set up a profile.  Hence, you showed that you have basic computer skills, that is all.  Other than that, there is nothing about you that shows you are dominant.  Start acting like someone who has a clue what this is all about and perhaps you will get a bit further.

DN  

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