The Freedom Of BDSM

 I always found it ironic that a lifestyle that contains bondage is a pathway to many for freedom in life.  However, those of us who live this way of life realized that is exactly what happened.  Entering the BDSM lifestyle is what freed us to be the people that we are.  This is an important concept that most are not able to exercise.

Fraud

Most people are basically frauds.  This does not mean to insinuate they are corrupt or criminal.  What I mean is that their life is a lie.  They are not living how they desired.  Instead, they are putting up all kinds of facades to help people outside view them differently.  Image is everything is the saying.  Conformity is the acceptable practice in the traditional world.  Stray from the norm and there are consequences to be paid.  Most understand this at a young age, hence, they fall in line with the group thinking.

Being true to oneself is almost impossible with the way society is.  Certainly there are a few who are able to enjoy this but they are considered fringe people.  The last time it was commonplace was during the hippie movement in the 60s which ended along with the Vietnam War.  Now, people who engage in a communal lifestyle or anything along those lines is viewed as odd or radical.

As a result, people fall follow the prescribed path as outlined to them by society.  This is especially true with relationships.  I have a wedding to attend this summer for a family member and the thought has crossed my mind more than once "why is he getting married".  Now I am not stating this with an opposition to marriage as much as to the question of whether he was free to consider alternative lifestyle choices.  I am going to hypothesize that he did not and is simply falling the common course of action.  He is in his late 20s, met someone he loves, and so marriage is the logical next step.  While that might be true, in 50% of the cases, divorce follows after that.

Perhaps this individual is being true to himself with this decision.  However, I know from talking with many over the years, this is not the case for everyone.  People find themselves imprisoned to the cultural ideas which are commonplace.  The indoctrination process starts at an early age and never really ends.  Most individuals end up living a life established by someone else.

BDSM As The Answer

For many, the answer is BDSM.  Please notice how I wrote many and not all.  BDSM is not for everyone so let us not pretend this is the cure-all for society.  Nevertheless, for those who feel an inner alignment with this way of life, it can be the pathway to freedom.

To start, BDSM is a conscious choice.  In few situations within Western Society is BDSM the default structure for relationships.  Instead, we see a world that is based upon parity in relationship with the power structure equally split.  This is not so in BDSM.  People who opt for this method consciously choose a relationship based upon the fundamental idea of unequal power.  This is radically different from those who are commonly operating in the traditional world where there choices are typically unconscious.

Another aspect of this is that BDSM allows one to be who he or she is.  The opportunity exists to eliminate the facades (at least some of them) and be "who you are".  Naturally, since we all have to operate in the "real world" there are some of those walls which need to remain in place.  However, the vast majority of them can be punctured especially in social settings.  Submission, as an example, is not a characteristic valued by society.  Yet, in the BDSM world, it is a necessary component in every relationship.  The same is true with domination.  Society has a mixed idea about this trait yet we embrace it within BDSM.  If this is who a person is, why deny it?

BDSM also offers the pathway for exploration.  The vanilla world detests this concept.  People are to adhere to what is already established.  Anything outside those bounds is frowned upon.  In BDSM, we encourage people to try new things.  There is a whole spectrum of activities from the mild to the extreme which we suggest people try.  The one caveat that we insist upon is that of safety.  However, outside that, and a few highly illegal ones, everything is open.  The freedom to explore is not only offered but encouraged.

BDSM is a lot more than just whips and chains.  Along your path, be sure to look deeper within yourself to determine what is available to you.  You just might uncover something that astounds you.  Freedom is available if you want to take it.  But remember, with freedom comes responsibility.

DN

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