Slut Does Not Equal Slave

So many equate the idea of being a slut to that of being a slave. If it were only that easy. The world of difference between a slut and a true slave is too large to describe. Nevertheless, I will touch upon some of the highlights in an effort to clarify this misconception.

Sex Slave

I once told a girl that the mindset of a slut came natural to her....the mindset of a slave was what she needed to work on. Her entire adult life was spent either thinking about screwing or getting screwed. This was not a problem for this woman. She knew how to accomplish this end. It was the mindset of living totally as another one's property that threw her.

So many mention the idea of living as a sex slave. To them, this is what it is all about. They equate slavery with being screwed every which way. Many will cite the fantasy of being shared by the Master with all his friends. Of course, my first question is what does he get out of it? Certainly there are many who are into that and like to see slaves used by others. However, the one with this fantasy (the slave) is interjecting her wishes and desires as opposed to considering what a Master would like. What if she is with one who doesn't want that? Did this ever occur to our willing slave?

The answer is 'no'. It seems a person of this ilk is drawn to this lifestyle because she wants to be used by multiple people. Sexual submission is what she is after but only for what she receives. She wants to slut around. It is that simple. Now bear in mind I am not stating there is anything wrong with this approach. My point is that it is not the mindset of a slave. One who wants to be used sexually is into sexual exploration. There is a difference.

Slave Knowledge

Being a slave is not an overnight affair. I have utmost respect for those who are able to adopt the mindset of a slave because I know how difficult it is to achieve. There is a great deal more than one believes when he or she encounters this lifestyle. Living totally for another person is something that goes against the basic nature of an individual. The human ego resists this adoption at every turn. We are taught to consider ourselves and how things affect us. A slave has a completely different outlook.

Sex is only the proverbial tip of the iceberg when it comes to submission. Giving your life over to another means that everything is on the table. What is yours is his. It is that simple. All decisions rest with him. Therefore, the domination entails all aspects of life. A slave does not receive even the most basic of freedoms without permission. Children have more latitude than a slave. For example, they can go to the bathroom when nature comes calling. A slave often needs to ask permission. Another example is in the financial arena. Did you consider what it is like to have no money of your own? All assets acquired are his. This is the nature of the beast. Thus, if you are seeking to live as a slave, remember that anything purchased needs to be with his approval.

A slave needs to adopt a completely selfless mindset. For many, this can take years. It is a slow process. As mentioned, the ego cries out loudly against this. Those who believe that sexual submission is all there is to it are mistaken. That is the easy part. Just because one is submissive, that does not make her a slave. Many choose the D/s lifestyle because M/s is too difficult to achieve. The vast percentage are better suited to live that way. They have the basic desire to submit yet still want to maintain some control. This is a better fit for people of this nature.


Being a slut only require the willingness to get used sexually. To be a slave, one is required to be used in any way the Master sees fit. Please try to understand the difference.

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