Do you think that domination or submission is something that is learned or it is a natural desire within each of us?
Obviously, society does not value domination. We see this in all
walks of life. Religions tell us that "the meek shall inherit the
Earth". Our government stress the importance of fairness and equality.
Getting along with others is a value that is important in all arenas.
Compromise and avoidance of conflict are stressed in comparison to
sticking to one's guns and standing on principle. All these things take
away from the dominance that is within many.
Naturally, the social conditioning does not equate to submissiveness
being instilled. One who is naturally dominant tends not to become
submissive even with constant conditioning. I will admit that there is a
tendency to suppress the natural desires a bit but to turn the other
way is not likely in my experience.
I am going to presume the same is true when looking at one with
submissive tendencies. Certainly, a person of this ilk will adopt a
dominant stature in those situations where necessary. We see this all
the time of submissives/slaves who are in the business world. Because
of the requirements of their profession, many are "in charge" of others
during work hours. The difference is that in this instance, this
individual is embracing a particular role to meet certain requirements
i.e. cash flow. I do not believe this is where this person is happiest
yet he or she can excel because of training and experience. The goal
will be met but it isnt a natural occurrence for this person.
And what about those people who waffle back and forth. In this
instance I am not referring to those who are switches. Instead, I mean
those who one year claim to be dominant and the next to be submissive.
Or, we often see a person who states he or she is one thing, dominant as
an example, yet exhibit none of the tendencies of domination. We find
the result is usually a person being bossy as opposed to dominant. The
true science/art of domination is completely lost on this person. We
can also say the same about the submissives (especially online) who
claim to want to give up control and then whip out their 1500 item do
not do list. Ultimately this person is submissive only one Weds between
3 and 4 in the afternoon while in the state of Missouri.
My experience is the satisfaction comes from being in touch with the
natural desire within us. This is something that is uncovered, not
learned. There are aspects of each that is learned but one who is
attempting to live in congruence of his/her core is going to find
fulfillment. The rest seem to be playing games.
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