Household BDSM Items II

Yesterday I wrote about 4 items that every household has which can be used to enter into the world of BDSM (read post here). It is a fallacy that BDSM need be an expensive proposition with many trips to the sex shop. When you look around your house, you can find many items to implement into your scenes.

Here are a few more.









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Household BDSM Items

Many feel inclined to spend larges sums of money to get into the BDSM lifestyle. A single trip to your local sex shop will reveal how expensive things can get. However, there is a way to start experimenting without leaving your house. The average household has many items which can be used for BDSM.

All these items are ideal to be used to spank a sub/slave. Each item is in almost every home. Look around and I am sure you will find more items you can use.









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The Sub's Motto

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Spank Me

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Paddling and Spanking

This is one of the most basic activities in BDSM yet it is often overlooked. For something so simple, it is an easy way to get into the lifestyle. I am constantly amazed at the number of couples who miss this fundamental practice. Images of suspension, extreme bondage and dungeon scenes fill their minds. They equate this to being what BDSM is all about.

A nice spanking is something that many people enjoy. In fact, there are few submissive types who do not like this practice. This is enhanced if one is being done doggie style. I found that a sub loves having a hard cock in her pussy while being spanked. It is a perfect compliment to the natural dominance of the sex act. He gives, she receives.

This simple concept can be taken one step further by using an implement to enhance the pleasure. Some have difficulty taking a hard paddling so caution is warranted here. I would suggest whenever trying something new with your partner (or dealing with someone new) use a safe word. This tells the other to stop whenever this word is uttered. Also, use her response as a guage to her level of acceptance.

Again, there is no need to go out and spend lots of money on paddles, floggers, and riding crops. Some of the best items are in your house at this moment. Two that I find preferable are the spatula and hairbrush. Both items are in every home and can inflict a nice sting when applied to the ass. The added benefit for me is that I forego the pain in my hand from spanking.

BDSM can be simple and fun. It takes just a little imagination to be effective. Spanking and paddling is something that we are all familiar with-well at least those of us old enough before the "experts" thought children ought not be spanked (mine definitely didnt fall into this category). We know the sting that comes from a hand or some other item meeting our ass. Provide this pleasure to those who truly enjoy it. It will make your experience that much happier.

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The Best Household BDSM Implement

Many go out and spend hundreds of dollars on BDSM toys and accessories. While this is all well and good, it is a step that needn't be taken, especially in the beginning. It is best to enter into this alternative lifestyle in a manner which reflects your level of learning. Spending a boatload of money on furniture, whips, and chains when you know not how to use them is pointless.

The way I tell most couples to implement BDSM in their relationship is through the technique of spanking. This simple technique allows for one to experience the sensation of the lifestyle without going too deep. I find it best to go slower rather than fast. Spanking can also be coupled with a variety of role playing to enhance the scene.

After one get accustomed to this, I usually suggest adding to thes situation by getting a simple household spatula. This can be one of the plastic ones that is available at the local discount store. A plastic spatula will increase the amount of "sting" when the ass or upper back is struck. Some also like to have their tits beaten with this, an entry into titty torture.

Using a spatula is the most cost effective way to move to the next level in your BDSM play. The best part is that every kitchen has one. You can vary the degree of pain by strike the same area repeatedly in quick intervals. As mentioned, there is the flexibility of striking different areas. Finally, I have concentrated on a specific area long enough to draw blood. The constant striking will thin out the skin until there is nothing left.

Remember this tool the next time you want to add a bit more to your scene.

Simple Play (Punishment)

BDSM is a wide spectrum ranging from the soft to the extreme. How deep one ventures is entirely up to that person. For many new people, it is overwhelming. They read different articles and sites on the Internet only to learn that there are many layers to this lifestyle. What is one to do?

Spanking is a simple way to enhance your pleasure. It is also a mild entry into the BDSM world. Obviously, many experiment with this technique often not realizing that it is consider to be part of BDSM. I would guess the vast percentage of the population has spanked/been spanked during sex. Again, this is a mild form of BDSM yet something that many can expand upon.

For those couples who have determined the Dom/sub roles, spanking is a wonderful way to move a bit deeper into the lifestyle. Punishments are often necessary for one's training. A spanking is a terrific way to levy a punishment. The severity of the blows can be adjusted to reflect the magnitude of the misdeed.

Spanking also will allow a sub to experiment with her pain threshold. Many find that pain provides them pleasure. Helping a sub find her limits is one of the primary responsibilities of a Dom, especially when they are romantically involved with each other. Spanking offers the pain aspect without getting into the extreme segments of the lifestyle that include whips and canes.

Try this time tested technique. You will find that spanking offers the dual role of being an act of pleasure, and one of punishment.