Paddling and Spanking

This is one of the most basic activities in BDSM yet it is often overlooked. For something so simple, it is an easy way to get into the lifestyle. I am constantly amazed at the number of couples who miss this fundamental practice. Images of suspension, extreme bondage and dungeon scenes fill their minds. They equate this to being what BDSM is all about.

A nice spanking is something that many people enjoy. In fact, there are few submissive types who do not like this practice. This is enhanced if one is being done doggie style. I found that a sub loves having a hard cock in her pussy while being spanked. It is a perfect compliment to the natural dominance of the sex act. He gives, she receives.

This simple concept can be taken one step further by using an implement to enhance the pleasure. Some have difficulty taking a hard paddling so caution is warranted here. I would suggest whenever trying something new with your partner (or dealing with someone new) use a safe word. This tells the other to stop whenever this word is uttered. Also, use her response as a guage to her level of acceptance.

Again, there is no need to go out and spend lots of money on paddles, floggers, and riding crops. Some of the best items are in your house at this moment. Two that I find preferable are the spatula and hairbrush. Both items are in every home and can inflict a nice sting when applied to the ass. The added benefit for me is that I forego the pain in my hand from spanking.

BDSM can be simple and fun. It takes just a little imagination to be effective. Spanking and paddling is something that we are all familiar with-well at least those of us old enough before the "experts" thought children ought not be spanked (mine definitely didnt fall into this category). We know the sting that comes from a hand or some other item meeting our ass. Provide this pleasure to those who truly enjoy it. It will make your experience that much happier.

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Punishing of the Feet

The beating of the feet can be fun and exciting for many. This is especially true for those who have a foot fetish. The idea of having a bit of soreness the next day reminds the sub/slave of the wonderful time experienced with the Dom/Master.

To start, safety is really important in this technique. A foot has many small bones that can easily be broken. We want to avoid this at all costs. Always hit on the bottoms while avoiding the tops altogether. Aim you blows to the balls of the feet or the external sole. The heel is also acceptable if that person has never had any heel trouble.

For maximum pleasure, it is best to tie the sub/slave up. Have the sub lay on his or her back while putting the feet in the air. I find that using a spreader bar or cuffs attached to an overhead hook works the best. This will give open access to the soles of the feet (the ass is exposed also providing a bonus benefit).

Naturally the idea is to cause a sting as opposed to providing pain. As mentioned, safety is critical in this technique. What you use to strike the sub/slave can vary. Floggers, rulers, and boards all seem to be effective. Find something that provides the sting which you also can control. I found that industrial size paint stirrers work very well. Experiment with different devices to see what you like the best.

Try this technique the next time you want to have some BDSM fun. It is unique and provides the sub/slave with a sensation not otherwise experienced.

BDSM: Flogging

Flogging is a way for both the top and bottom to receive pleasure. Many like the "pain" that goes along with this. However, it is usually the endorphin rush that is sought after. The bottom can get a "high" in certain situations.

Flogging is about power for the Dom/Master. The sense of pleasure that comes from this power is stimulating. Also, many of us like to give a sub/slave pleasure if she is one who enjoys the sensations from flogging. For both, there is erotic stimulation.

The technique of flogging is simple but not easy. A good flogger will provide a nice snap on the intended target. Nevertheless, it is important to approach this technique with safety. A great deal of damage can be done to one if care is overlooked.

To start, never strike a person with a flogger (or anything else) in an area that could be damaged. This includes, but is not limited to, face, neck, joints, or areas where there arteries. Permanent damage can be inflicted. Also, for the back, always go across it taking care to avoid hitting the spine. The small of the back is another place to stay away from. In general, it is best to always strike an area of the body where there is some "meat".

Personally, my favorite area to flog is the ass. It is safe thus removing the possibility for injury. That area also allows for some leeway with the strikes. It is best to give yourself a margin of error.

Flogging takes a bit of talent. I suggest practicing on an inanimate object such as a pillow or a pole to get accustomed to the action of the flogger. When using any whipping tool, wrap-around is always a concern. Practice will give you a feel for the length and power of the strokes. Also, learning how to adjust the amount of impact is crucial. It will allow for the sensations to be heightened by alternating the force.

As for the flogger itself, there are hundreds of types on the market. I will not go into them here. What I will suggest is to avoid the cheap ones that are available at gag stores. A good flogger will have a solid handle with strong tails. Leather is a good material for this. Of course, your price range will be a deciding factor but investing in a good flogger is necessary. It is one of the basics of the BDSM world.