Efficient Use Of Time

I would like to thank all those who commented on my post titled "Online Attraction". If you haven't checked it out, there is a wonderful discussion starting with a few different participants. Valuable insight is being offered up by all.

Today, I would like to approach the BDSM from a more practical standpoint. Efficiency experts tell us the best use of one's time (in all walks of life) is for a person to focus on the most important tasks. What I mean is that one utilizes his or her capabilities for maximum gain while delegating lesser activities to others. For this reason, we do not see executives answering their own phones. It is far more productive to have an hourly employee fill that role while the executive concentrates on more important matters.

The M/s lifestyle, specifically, is like this. Ideally, a Master (or Mistress) will want to use his or her slave's time for maximum benefit. Having the slave concentrate on "lower" level activities allows the Master to dedicate time to other endeavors. This is a practical use of the M/s relationship.

On a personal note, I have a slave handle most of my household tasks. This allows me to focus my attention on other things like my writing. Also, there are a range of activities that she does which make my life easier. This is the role that a slave plays. Another one of my slaves handles much of the interaction with my IT personnel and the associated problems there. Here is another example of where I am freed up to dedicate myself to other things.

How a Master chooses to spend his or her time is up to that person. Not all choose to be productive with the time. Many will lounge around on the sofa watching television or reading a book while the slave attends to the appropriate chores. This is all a matter of personal preference. The important factor is to realize that the slave is freeing up the Master's time while making life easier for him (her).

This brings up a point about the previous post that I mentioned which had the discussion going on. Online relationships fail to net a Master more efficiency with his (her) time. Typically, a slave is not in a position to handle the tasks needed to make a Master's life easier without physically being there. Household details are left to him unless he pays someone else to do them. Yard work and other chores cannot be delegated under this scenario either. In short, I surmise that a slave has a difficult time making a Master's life easier when online. It is really only when the relationship moves to real time does that opportunity present itself. Of course, there are exceptions.

Just some food for thought.

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Limits

I recently read something on line which peaked my interest. This particular individual believed that a slave had no limites; not if she was a true slave. This statement made me stand back and think. I was perplexed how someone could come to that conclusion. It made me re-evaluate what I believed on this matter.

Does a true slave have limits? Her desire is to serve her Master fully. Along the same lines, her place is to do whatever her Master desires. Once she submits, her life is no longer her own. With this reasoning, and up to this point, I can see how the above belief is correct.

However, there seems to be one fact that this individual was missing. A slaves place is to do whatever her Master desires if she is capable. This addition changes the situation a great deal. A slave might not be able to perform certain tasks. Of course, if it is something that she requires some training, then it might be an activity which she can learn. Yet, there are certain things that one might not be able to do no matter what her willingness. A Master needs to be aware of these.

Here are some examples slaves might have a tough time fulfilling if requested: dunking a basketball, performing brain surgery, rebuilding a car engine, solving mathematical equations, or translating an ancient text written in arabic. Even those her willingness might be complete, there are challenges which might not be overcome. Simply, the knowledge base isn’t there.

Here is another situation which is more applicable. Often a Master will ask a slave to perform some sexual activities which she is physically unable to do. An individual with a back issue comes to mind. Again, the person might have all the desire to do what her Master wants. However, physical limitations can exist. For a Master to push her past this is irresponsible and potentially dangerous. This is one of those situations where a Master needs to know to pull back.

So, a slave can and will have limitations. Even thought she exchange all her power, her trust is that her Master will act responsibly. One of the roles of a Master is to help her uncover her limits, try to push past them, and pull back when she cannot go further.

Non Acceptance

When many enter into this lifestyle, there is something they encounter which many have never experienced before; non-acceptance. Society has a way of alienating those who make choices that are different from the norm. It views anything/anyone who is different as bad. A prime example of this is the gay population. Many heterosexuals have cast an angry shadow over this group of people. They use their religious beliefs or bigotry as a means of justify hated and intolerance.

Many exhibit the same mentality towards those in this lifestyle. They feel that people who choose to be owned, poly, beaten, or used should be cast out in front of others. There is a moral superiority that is suddenly flexed. These same people will call our materials or ideas “garbage”. The intelligence of the arguments set forth is astounding. Of course, the people who issue these assertions do not appear to be mental giants to begin with.

I was reading some of the comments by these same type people lately. This post is the result of seeing the intelligent thought shown. It disheartens me to report that we now realize that these are not Harvard graduates. The Internet provides them a forum for them to flex their muscles. Of course, it is only “cyber” courage. In real life, they cower to the fear and ignorance that guide their lives.

Anyone who knows Me realizes how I am built. They also know the background that I come from which would lead Me to knock the snot out of most of the people. Yet we do not do that in a civilized society. We are expected to wage the battle with thoughts and ideas. So I will let the actions of the ignorant stand on their own.

Non-Acceptance is an easy path for many to take. It relieves them of the burden of having to open their minds up to something new. We can take the lessons learned from the black generation who lived through civil rights era, the gay community, or any other sector of society who was put down for the way they chose to live their lives. In the end, the strong are those who make the choices in their lives regardless of what others think.