May 19, 2014

Sexual Sadism


Many in the lifestyle call themselves "sadists".  For the sake of all the submissives out there, I certainly hope this is incorrect.   If there are people who are into sadism in BDSM, the we need to clean the lifestyle up.

Here is what Merriam-Webster defines sadism as:

sa·dism

noun \ˈsā-ˌdi-zəm, ˈsa-\
: enjoyment that someone gets from being violent or cruel or from causing pain; especially : sexual enjoyment from hurting or punishing someone

Does this sound like someone we want in the lifestyle?  A true sadist is a lunatic.  This is a person who enjoys harming small children and kills pets for pleasure.  Fortunately, we do not find many of these people within the BDSM community.  So if the people are not true sadists, what are they?

The answer is in the fact that they are "sexual sadists" or "kinky sadists".  Like the true sadist, this is a person who derives pleasure from inflicting pain on another individual and sexual enjoyment is often present.  However, there is one major point that separates the two.  A "sexual sadist" likes inflicting pain on another person who also likes to receive the pain.  This point is moot to a true sadist. 

Therefore, a sadist in the BDSM world adheres to the SSC idea.  His enjoyment of causing another pain results from the other getting equal or more enjoyment herself.  It is not a one way street.

Keep this difference in mind.

DN  

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1 comments:

claire said...

So true! my Master says that he would get absolutely no enjoyment from hurting anyone...except me. And only the right kind of hurt. And a lot of times He makes me ask and beg for it, just to be sure.
The other night, for example, in the middle of a lot of sensations, pain and pleasure, going on, something was hurting me and making me uncomfortable. i'm not sure how He knew, but he did and stopped immediately to find out what was wrong and fix it.
What a wonderful, sexual sadist He is!

 

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